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New Evening News April 16 At present, about 16 million persons with his wife, their right to know,http://www.xyvip899.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=307579&fromuid=35689, sexual rights, the right spouse, as every woman deserves to be gay husband mercilessly deprived of physical and emotional life are not meet, the heart has been long suppressed, but ashamed to talk to the people and not loud complaints, they often fear ridicule and discrimination, only in the virtual online community of "same boat", seeking relief, with the wife of a very embarrassing situation.
How to accept the "mini three husband is a man," the reality? With real-life groups and feelings wife is like? Newspaper reporters and researchers HIT Department of Sociology, with his wife through the QQ group multiparty removed links to Harbin three with his wife, to convince them the courage to be interviewed. To show respect, text characters are not his real name.
Noun
"With the wife" refers to gay marriage into the relationship itself heterosexual women, homosexual groups are derived population, but also society,tiffany outlet online, hidden vulnerable groups. It is estimated that China currently sexually active gay men are about 20 million, with about 16 million in the number of wives. With the social and cultural diversification in the traditional family ethics shackles with his wife suffer domestic violence, sexual or asexual, and less risk of AIDS and other enormous pressure in marriage.
Now with the wife
Rain May 48, high school, housewives, daughter twenty-one
"Recognizing the eight days of marriage, his family knew he was gay, without telling me a man."
Readme
In 1992 we introduced to by friends. I felt others good, clean, and looks particularly refined, and had had a good smell of perfume,http://www.zgzydjr.com/thread-53250-1-1.html, all of a sudden I was fascinated.
From meeting to get married only eight days. In our age, "flash marriage" is unlikely to be accepted, when my parents do not agree, but I have to marry him.
The first four days after marriage,louboutin soldes, he began to Me "cold violence", and go home rarely speak, one year have not touched my body, and later her mother urges him to go to a child, this barely a relationship with me.
Dialogue
Reporter: He is so bad for you, you never doubted it?
Yu Mei: no. Because he was superior to me all the conditions, he can with me, I am also very surprised. So I always think that I did wrong, and why someone's home are alright, but my marriage so badly.
Reporter: how discovered he was gay?
Yu Mei: He usually always behind my computer online, seven years ago I once forgot to go home to get something and found him open QQ, chat records where he said, either to conceal his gay identity, He would not look at me. More frightening is that I actually found that his family knew he was gay, he treated me like a person.
That period of time I have collapsed. Even thought about suicide, but the thought of a child,http://www.wikiporno.org/wiki/User:Iksvc76049, I hesitated.
Reporter: He does not love you, why do not you get a divorce?
Yu Mei: At that time the child is still small, I do not want to give her a single parent family.
Reporter: He does not care children?
Plum rain: no matter what. For him, I was just procreation tools, care of the family's nanny. No, not as good as even the nanny, he earns one half spent another man body.
Reporter: In recent years how do you get through it?
Yu Mei: I put all the energy on the kids, do not know how he had the feeling he did not tomorrow.
Reporter: children are grown up now, she know?
Yu Mei: I know. When we fight, I do not care to speak out.
Reporter: What is the attitude she?
Yu Mei: She was afraid I would be old and lonely, I'm not in favor of divorce. I hate my husband, not because he delayed me, but because he ruined my children.
Reporter: What are the future plans?
Yu Mei: Divorce is the day I'm making, but also care about a card? So dragging it.
Tangled with wife
Man Kuen three years old, college, company employees, four years old son
"I can understand the pain of homosexuals, but my pain, who knows?"
Readme
My husband is larger than I was eight years old, work a lot better than me, I'm financially dependent on him.
Married the second year April 1, he suddenly told me that he liked men. He said I was a good girl, do not want to harm me, if I wanted a divorce, he cleanse the family. At that time I thought it was "April Fools' Day joke, but he finished on the" splash "kneel down, crying.
However, there are son between us. He told me that, for children, as long as I do not divorce, even if I find a man on the outside, he does not matter.
Dialogue
Reporter: Do you love to talk about how long?
Man Juan: talk for nearly two years, I did not find what's wrong.
Reporter: After that her husband is gay, the problem you have encountered what?
Man Juan: Every time I face him feel special twist. More importantly, he and his son have a good relationship, I'm afraid his son would be brought into the circle of homosexual grow up, too afraid to be infected with AIDS.
Reporter: Since there are so many concerns, why not divorce?
Man Juan: he is a fragile and very shy person, and I think every time he said to live. I can understand the pain of his heart. In fact, I still love him. I can not bear to leave him.
Reporter: Do you have other people mention this?
Man Juan: I have had a girlfriends did, but she did not believe me, she felt that I cranky, vexatious. Later,louboutin pas cher, I would not tell anyone, including her family.
Reporter: wronged you?
Man Juan: particularly aggrieved. Really,http://www.robotmind.net/bbs/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=426341, even if her husband out there "Little Three", than his heart was full of men better.
Reporter: Tell girlfriends, she wanted to encourage you divorce?
Man Juan: There is this idea.
Reporter: Now you is how to think?
Man Juan: homosexuality is not his fault. In fact, I was lucky, at least he was nice to me.
Reporter: you do not feel tough?
Man Juan: You know what strange bedfellows are feeling? He was lying to me, but do not feel the temperature. However, I still can not convince myself to leave him, leave, or leave, tangled filled every day.
Expert opinion
Harbin Institute of Technology professor of sociology Tangkui Yu believes that gay marriage will certainly enter into a heterosexual reduce the quality of marriage. Produced with his wife tragedy are manifold, the fundamental reason itself is not gay, but gay life choices affect traditional morality and heterosexual hegemony. Solve the problem with the wife still depends on socio-cultural understanding and acceptance for homosexuals.
Experts said that from a legal perspective, should improve the specific content of the "Marriage Law" clearly spouse rights, including better protection of women's rights, including with his wife. From the social level, the need to set up entities maintain with the wife's rights, to encourage them to support each other and fight for their rights, to seek help with the wife and married gay men to help, so with his wife find their own happiness. Experts call for same-sex sexual orientation has been confirmed to be active unmarried gay and heterosexual women refused to marry, raise awareness of respect for themselves and protecting women's rights.
Postscript
Each one with his wife, has its own sad story. For various reasons,http://www.122job.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=4340461&fromuid=58989, they are still struggling with the pain of marriage. Homowife sorrow caused not just gay husband, not just the original "Look missed it," is more important is that they are not properly protected in law.
Ago with the wife
Le Tong thirty-one, master, university teachers, two year old son
"Divorce is to not wronged themselves, hope he does not go to hurt innocent woman."
Readme
After my master's degree, at the urging of parents continue to blind, to know him. Love, I think he's all normal. A year and a half later, we were married.
Wedding first night, he actually told me that he impotence. I was also silly to think that he was too nervous so not. Before I was not pregnant, he once weekly and I have sex, almost no foreplay to the point, but he is still very hard in order to have children. I'm sure when pregnant, he would often go out to play, night out. Until his son was born two years later, I found out he was gay, then divorce.
Dialogue
Reporter: When he showed abnormal pregnancy, you still give birth?
Le Tong: I was not sure that he is gay, you need evidence.
Reporter: Then how do you determine?
Le Tong: I accidentally saw him and a man chats, found their open room hotel ......
Reporter: and others said he was gay?
Le Tong: ashamed at first,http://115.29.240.134/bbs/home.php?mod=space&uid=9469&do=blog&quickforward=1&id=3421145,chaussures louboutin hommes, then I and referrals as well as my parents say, introduced more than a decade and he knew, did not know he was gay.
Reporter: how your parents say?
Le Tong: I am more enlightened parents, they did not complain, it is to let me hasten to divorce. I tangled a long time, after all, to have children.
Reporter: How to divorce?
Le Tong: He is a civil servant, on account of his work and identity, I did not tell anyone around him, I think peaceful separation. Unexpectedly, at the moment I asked for a divorce, he ashtray smashed my head, bleeding at the time.
Reporter: children?
Le Tong: child just 2 years old,hollister, must follow me, I can not let the children affected by his father. I never told him these things.
Reporter: Do you still married?
Le Tong: ...... (dialog box each other for a long time did not respond to) really afraid, always afraid to find a still gay.
Reporter: Do you still do the same wife group,http://forum.youmiyouxi.com/home.php?mod=space&uid=31060?
Le Tong: Yes. Even if the divorce, and those still in pain before, not a year or two will be able to come out. I also often enlighten others with his wife, whether divorced or not, they should be supported.
Reporter: As with the wife, I think you're very brave.
Le Tong: I just do not want to wronged himself. I want to tell my ex-husband, do not get married,http://www.kddry.cn/home.php?mod=space&uid=132757, not to hurt other good woman. Author: Wang Tiejun Li He Source: Hong Kong News
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