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"Listen to the words of my mother." Reporter Zhou Mengying Drawing
What DragonSoft at 8:30 on August 12 (Reporter Zhou Mengying Xiao Ziqi) want to eat today, tomorrow, what to wear, how to get along with colleagues, which friends should not pay ...... your life, whether by their parents so unavoidably to "protect" the?
 
Because what have to rely on my mother decided that 27-year-old Liu Li (pseudonym) does not get along with others, resulting in two years, he quit his job 26. All the time in the care and control,http://www.aiji87.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=16493, over their parents' love, "is to protect or obstacle?
 
User talk: 26 years resignation Anything "Mom final say."
 
On Wednesday, who lives in Jiulongpo District of Chongqing Jinlong Road Liu Li (pseudonym) submitted a letter of resignation to the unit, and this is her last year from the date of the 26th resign.
 
"Finance just miscalculated her prize, she felt that 'you offend me, I quit'." Turning to the reasons for her resignation, Liu Li's mother Miss Mao a bit anxious, "if she played in advance call me to say, I can give her ideas, it would not spin thiophene to resign. "
 
It is reported that 27-year-old Liu force since graduating from college, have replaced several dozens of work, many of them state-owned enterprises as well as large multinational companies, no matter where she was, Miss Mao is always the best route in advance to help her good to go inquiry units The best restaurant near the unit, and even how and new colleagues, Miss Mao as well as "hands on" to teach.
 
"Mom asked me to call at any time where, what to do,http://www13.plala.or.jp/white_roots/gwbbs/gwbbs.cgi, work and interpersonal problems should I report on, and then said to me The solution." Liu Li said in an interview with reporters, "She totally put me 7 8-year-old child, what should help me solve, beginning Fortunately, more and more want to later contradict, but found no mother once ideas, they are completely unable to deal with work and interpersonal,http://www.mrdisinfestazione.it,Louboutin Sandales, only then change the environment. "
 
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Mother: do not let the child is precious to sweep
 
Seeing her daughter Liu Li resigned 26 years, Miss Mao inevitably some impatient, so she took Liu to force doctors re-attached to a hospital mental health center for help, but the doctor's diagnosis allows Miss Mao somewhat at a loss, the resignation of former child constantly fundamental The reason is actually in his body.
 
According to Ms. Mao introduced, because it is the only child, Liu Li brought up as a treasure house, do not let her do anything, "home with us, and she need not sweep these clothes, in case fell touched how do ? "
 
"I've eaten more salt than she had ever eaten meters, I gave her to make a decision, you can make her less take a lot of detours." Miss Mao told reporters that her daughter introverted character itself, in order to not let her suffer, Miss Mao almost every twenty-three hours should make a phone call to ask, and more content to "Where" "what" "meet someone", "I can help you do" is.
 
But now, Miss Mao not only worried about her daughter's work, but also worry about her daughter's marriage: "She will not do housework, surrounded by friends I do not think the fly, now no playing friends, how a husband out Oh? "
 
Daughter: Mom blanket, but they found themselves once they left nothing will
 
"When I think my mother would be more blanket so overbearing, such as a department not doing well, she would have to let me immediately go to cram school." Liu Li said Miss Mao arranged everything for her, and she just " condemnation "button.
 
Liu Li said that both go to school or go to work, take it all the way to the car, eat Which face, which one to buy stationery inquire in advance is a good mother, after talking with colleagues at work, often dialogue will also be transferred to the mother "look over" to Miss Mao advice.
 
"In fact, the way would also like themselves, but failed each time." Liu Li said, when IT companies to work in a department dinner, she decided not to tell Miss Mao, in that party, but found she could not integrate discussion topic, while you will not even toast, "If my mother, may be able to tell me what to say."
 
Children: excessive "protection" into the shackles of the parents can not "love" in the name of interference life
 
"To be honest, the parents love has made me breathless." Jiang Yong, who lives in Yuzhong District Court 7 of  already 25 years old, and every time out with friends and classmates, all have to go home before nine o'clock in the evening. "Otherwise, my mother will 'serial killer CALL', until I get home." Wang Silei often feel there is no freedom, and sometimes go out with friends, parents will be like inventory spy ships, so she was very embarrassed.
 
Now, Wang Silei around friends and colleagues are aware of this situation,Louboutin Plates-forme, and often have a party because of "strict tutor" and no longer notice her, let her get humiliated. "Children are not pets parents, there should be a separate space. When parents care about their children, not always in the name of love, interference child's personal life,http://joy-bells.seesaa.net, beyond the normal scope of the bundle."
 
Tang Yue work in early childhood foreign language in Yubei Area kindergarten, she often found to send their children food, clothes or toys send parents. "Even some parents privately told me, do not want their children to play children and certain."
 
Tang Yue said, over the parents 'protection' Sometimes children will bring great psychological burden, let the children lose some judgment and thinking.
 
Parents: Children always need to worry about their parents deserve guide
 
Asked in detail about his son's favorite meal, at any time to worry about their well-being, a son not around my heart at sixes and sevens, the total can not help but call to ask if well, son of official private matter to be "getting into the act" ...... lives 9 Li Mei Jiangbei District Jinsha waterfront since his son was born, has been so worry to over 24 years.
 
"Parents control their children for granted, such heartfelt love is normal." LeMay said, today's young people, although the age of growing up, but easily influenced by others, she worried about his son accidentally take a detour. "Always concerned about the child can discover problems, to correct guidance."
 
Who lives in Dadukou Shunxiang a street pole Liu Yung year has been 58 years old, who manage the size of the transaction daughter, she is now in the band 4-year-old granddaughter. "Today's young people of plenty, have not experienced suffering, lack of caring heart and interpersonal skills, so the parents of restraint is very important."
 
Liu Yung-pole, said, while her daughter is very dependent on their own, but she thinks this is safe. "At least she did every decision will be asked for my opinion, the size of things there I make a decision, you can prevent a lot of unnecessary mistakes."
 
Psychological experts: Adult no "weaning" prone to cause personality defects
 
Deputy Director of the weight attached to a hospital mental health center status Professor Lee told reporters that in recent years, to the psychological clinic "unweaned" Young people more and more, most of which exhibit extremely sensitive and anxiety symptoms.
 
"Like Liu Li this is her mother pipe too much detail." Status of Lee, said most of the family is now only one child, parents fear their children are tired and worry about, so anything want to make their children well, which is very easy to form overprotection, so children will not be in adulthood, "weaning", leading to mental retardation, personality development is not perfect.
 
Children benefit from the status of psychoanalysis, in children under overprotective parents, often with ambivalence, will eventually lead to anxiety, and other symptoms of sensitive, can not make a decision independently, but the lack of interpersonal skills. "Most children begin their parents will resent this protection, but if the parents still insist that their children will not let go of this excessive reliance on protection."
 
Education Experts: Parents can not replace life children learn to let go business
 
Vice president of Chongqing female talent research, family education expert Li Anna said that parents should grasp the bundle of the child, not a substitute for child business life. The right to establish their own education is the pursuit of life, so that the power of example to influence children.
 
"Parents are a child protection nature, they often fear of children suffer, bullied, so the child wrapped up, and continue to meet the needs of children." Li Anna said, the consequences of doing so is to let children grow up unable adapt to the social environment that others should obey unconditionally as parents themselves. Once the difficulties, it will indent parents embrace, unable to face the storms of life.
 
Li Anna suggested that when parents bundle child should grasp a degree,http://www.legalforce.com, do not let the normal care "change the taste." "Great big issues of principle of non-parents can make suggestions to them for reference, do assisted a role,http://www.city.uozu.toyama.jp/mmagemergency/mmagMlApp.aspx, do not help them make a decision." Li Anna said,http://www.idbren.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=13149677&fromuid=125064, as for the child's habits, leisure, socializing and other parents It should not be too much interference. "Give the children some independent space, learn to let go."
 
In addition, she said, parents should have their own ambitions and the pursuit of life, not to focus excessively on the children. "The right education is actually the power of example", Li Anna admitted that "parents should be more concerned about their elderly life, showing the positive side of self-reliance to the children, with their own actions to influence them."
 
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Liangjiang Survey:
 
What to eat today, tomorrow, what to wear, how to get along with colleagues, friends should not pay ...... what parents care about their children right and proper,Louboutin Escarpins, can be all manner of care and control, over their parents' love, "is to protect or obstacle?
 
Once the children are grown up adults should have an independent space, parents should no longer bundle children, affecting normal life for their children.
 
Parents to protect their children is an instinct, it is to let the child detours to avoid the children make mistakes, this bundle is important.
 
Parents should grasp the bundle of children, issues of principle can make suggestions, but the child's daily life, parents should not be too much official interference in private affairs.
 
Topic extension:
 
Parents 'protection' What are the symptoms of excessive lead to?
 
"NEET"
 
Kids spoiled by their parents overprotective, in the process of growing independence has not been cultured. Wait until the age of responsibility, they refused to separate, long-term dependency, parasitism parents who rely on their parents to solve everything, now form the "Neet."
 
"Marriage is difficult."
 
In addition to daily life, study and work, marriage and children are often the big parents "focal point." Overprotective parents make their children's marriage status also have a strong desire to control, and therefore make more requirements on the spouse and children. The parents and children on the marriage, love, understanding certainly different, often put their ideas, ideas on to your children, cause the child a "marriage difficult" situation.
 
"Easy inferiority"
 
What to wear what to eat, that his friends, what to say ...... in long overprotective parents,Louboutin Mary Jane, children tend to become weak, shy,Louboutin Pas cher, afraid to face new things, not take the initiative with people, lose a lot of learning and training opportunities. At the same time, long-term lack of decision-making and judgment, will lead the children self-confidence is not enough, resulting in "incompetence" of the self-evaluation, the breeding of inferiority.
 
"Coward"
 
Cowardly not born,http://www.health8.com/cgi-bin/yybbs/yybbs.cgi, babies do not know fear. But with the improvement of cognitive ability, children come to know the risk, but the attitude of the children treat dangerous, but it is the result of ambient effects. Over-current protection is one of the major errors of parents parenting, because today's children are mostly only child, so parents are always very careful, lest child has a problem. Children with a little risk-taking behavior, parents will be very nervous, constantly remind kids to be careful. Under such overprotection, the child will become more and more timid.
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